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What does the other gender really want? To answer this great mystery of the heteroromantic dating world, you'll first need to infiltrate Facebook's server HQ. Once you've accessed the top secret database of men's thoughts, just... sorry, is this too much effort? All right, there are a handful of simpler tricks and ideas that have a good shot at turning men's heads or pushing a budding relationship in a more intimate direction. Good luck out there!
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Buy him a drink or ask for his phone number. A whopping 95% of single men in the US like the idea of a woman making the first move. Keep up that daring, assertive style by being the first to lean in for a kiss.[1]
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Share your secret ridiculous interests or weird hobbies. It's not just passionate nights and sexy outfits that stick in a man's head—the goofy, quirky, incredibly you moments can be the most endearing of all.[4] Don't be afraid to share the deep secrets of your Netflix history or the walrus tooth collection hiding in your closet.[5]
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Men use humor to show off, so reward it when you're interested. A lot of men crack jokes to impress women, whether or not they're any good at it! Give them a chuckle if you want to signal you're a willing target.[6] You can even have it both ways and still mock-complain about how awful his puns are afterward—a little teasing is a great part of flirting too![7]
Helen Fisher, Biological Anthropologist and Human Behavior Researcher
Attraction isn't just about the physical stuff. It's all the little details of someone's personality, their excitement, their sense of humor, the way they see the world — those are the things that really draw us in. A lot of times, it's the odd traits, the flaws, the quirks that we find most charming. Those unique manners and behaviors show a deeper compatibility, one that goes way beyond initial physical appeal.
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Men love to feel needed and knowledgeable. It's a little "damsel in distress", but it's effective. If you don't feel like play-acting, wait until you have an actual question or problem, but save it for the guy you're interested in.[8]
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Flirtatious touches are a great way to turn a guy on. Men in many cultures aren't used to physical intimacy, so even a little contact can give him shivers. Turn and grab his arm when you want to ask him a question, playfully kick him under the table if he teases you, or, for a big move, touch your hand to his cheek or chin.[9]
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How does attraction develop?
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Dating CoachImad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.
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A guy will be attracted to a girl if he admires her. This attraction isn't just physical—it's also emotional, spiritual, and intellectual.
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What are the 2 factors of attraction?
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Excitement and tension are the 2 factors that equal attraction. Excitement provides connection, while tension provides a challenge; having both is what truly makes some attractive.
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